“It takes the whole of life to learn how to live, and–what will perhaps make you wonder more–it takes the whole of life to learn how to die.” ― Lucius Annaeus Seneca
In my experience, transformation is a journey. Often a long one. One made of thousands of small steps.
Sometimes I feel that getting there is less important than the journey itself. Because when I focus on the journey, rather than the destination, the sense of hurry disappear and I can really savour every moment.
Yet, too often, I got anxious and eager to get to the end. To discover what awaits me at the top of the hill.
I remember when I was a pilgrim a year ago with a group of men. Oh, how fulfilling it was to slowly walk during the day. No place to be but where we were. We walked in harmony within and without ourselves.
Until one day it was late, we were hungry, and it was raining. Darkness was closing upon us, and we knew that the place we were supposed to have dinner was going to close soon. The quality of our steps changed all of a sudden. We were all focus on getting there, we forget to wait for the slower ones or to pay attention to the nature around us. We just wanted to get there in time.
This post is a reminder to myself, to have faith in the journey I’m in. To let go of the hurry to get anywhere. To get the best from every step.
“Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished.” — Lao Tzu
Learning new things, discovering new ideas, unearthing new connections. Can you think of anything more exciting?
Though, to expand our known world, we must learn to walk on the edge of it. Because there is where the change and the growth happens, at the boundary. Between what you know and what you don’t know, the familiar and the different, your past and the future.
I’ve been reminded of the importance of living on the edge of our knowledge and perception a few days ago in the mentoring programme I’m attending.
While we were examining the importance of networking and creating interactions that expand our world, I’ve learned about Mark S. Granovetter, a professor at the Johns Hopkins University, and his work.
His theory is that weak ties, the connections with people at the boundaries of our “relationship bubble” are the most important. Because those are the connections that can open us to new learning and new networks. They are the one that can bring new perspectives in our lives.
On the other side of the spectrum, the strong ties that connect us with the people close to use, physically and emotionally, give us strength, safety and confidence. But they can also wrap us in a safe bubble, where we can surely feel good but we won’t be able to grow.
Obviously, walking on the edge is risky. But can you think of anything more exhilarating?
P.S. the title of this post is a clear homage to my teenage years.