One Apple A Day #417 – Identity and Behaviours

This post is inspired by this short and fascinating article.

In the last months, I’ve been searching a lot about goals vs habits, and behaviours vs identity.
I started this quest because I struggle with goals. I tried many strategies, methodologies, tools without cracking the code of this limit.

Until I started focusing on habits instead of goals. Creating patterns is definitely more in tune with how I operate, and it helped me improve in many aspects of my life. Still, sticking to some habits has been and still is harder than others.

The next shift in my quest was realising that only when my habits are in synch with who I am, I can be more consistent and create significant results.

These are my learnings so far.

Your identity informs your behaviours.

The starting point is the WHO, not the WHAT or the HOW. Once you have clarity about who you are (“I am a writer”), then you can design your goals or habits (depending on what works better with you) as a way to become more of who you are (“I am a writer because I write every day”).

Unfortunately, at least for me, this is not enough to really create an impact in my life.

Your behaviours shape or reinforce your identity.

To know what to do is not the same as doing what you know. Once you have clarity about who you are and you have designed your goals or habits, you need to infuse discipline in your practice.
That means creating the structure that will support your newly designed behaviours. Over time these identity-based behaviours will shape and reinforce your identity, that in turn will infuse more energy in your behaviours creating a positive growing loop.

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