Most of our relationships are transactional.
I give you this, and you give me that.
It doesn’t have to be a tangible thing.
We exchange time, sweat, attention, power, love, affection.
The currency may vary, but the principle is the same.
Do ut des as they used to say in ancient Rome.
How would the world look like if we move beyond this transactional mindset? Is it really the only way to live?
When we operate from this mindset, what really matters is what we have and what we don’t have.
I have this to give, and I want what you have.
We do things only when we feel that the balance of the exchange is even or in our favour. We apply this principle to work relationships but also to personal ones.
How would a relationship look like if we build it on the “being” instead of the “having”? If what matters is who we are and not what we have?
I know it’s possible.
I experienced the unconditional love of my family.
I don’t know where I am going with this reflection, but I have a strong feeling that the more we move beyond the “do ut des” mindset, the better life would become for everyone.