One Apple A Day

 

On this page, you can find my collection of (almost) daily posts. It started as a 90 days project to cure my laziness in writing — One Apple A Day keeps the laziness away — and it then became a vital ingredient of my daily practices. There are no predefined topics. Just the pleasure of daily writing practice. The project started as a Tumblr blog. You can find the first 412 posts over there.

 

One Apple A Day #597 – you are infinite

Be yourself, they say.

Great advice but, who am I?

Who this self I am supposed to be? How would I know that I am “being myself”?

Because the more I try to define who I am using my thinking mind, the more I wrap myself into a box that gets smaller.

And I can clearly sense that most of me has been left out.

So, you see, there is a problem here.

My mind thinks in shapes and forms, so it is used to set boundaries to divide one thing from the other. To separate me from the others and the world so I can put a label on myself.

The ancient greeks engraved the words γνῶθι σεαυτόν on the Temple of Apollo at Delphi.

“know thyself”

What they didn’t write is that knowing yourself is a never-ending journey. And that the journey is more important than the destination. It doesn’t matter how many labels and boxes you’ll be able to use to define yourself, as long as you keep exploring.

You are infinite as the universe you hold inside.

One Apple A Day #596 – magic mirrors

“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” — Napoleon Hill

I’m sure you’ve read or heard this quote many times. This morning these words pop up while I was reflecting upon a conversation I had a few days ago with my dear friend Vanessa.

We were reflecting on our work, trying to distil the essence of what we do. Among the many compelling ideas, one has been resonating with me since that conversation.

We are the carrier of a special kind of mirror. One the reflect not who you are, but who you can be if you express your full potential.

When we stand before our clients, individuals or groups, we can reflect back the image of their extraordinary self. They can see, in that magic mirror, the stunning beauty of themselves living at their full potential.

Whatever you put your attention on expands.

Seeing your extraordinary self is vital to begin any transformation journey. Because once your mind conceives it, as Napoleon Hill wrote, you’ll know you can achieve it.

We all can do that. Anytime we live our full potential, we become mirrors for the people around us. Magic mirrors in which they can see their extraordinary self.

Our Deepest Fear

By Marianne Williamson

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light, not our darkness

That most frightens us.

We ask ourselves

Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?

You are a child of God.

Your playing small

Does not serve the world.

There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking

So that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We are all meant to shine,

As children do.

We were born to make manifest

The glory of God that is within us.

It’s not just in some of us;

It’s in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine,

We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

As we’re liberated from our own fear,

Our presence automatically liberates others.

ONE APPLE A DAY #595 – shine through defeat

Yesterday I read a short and powerful piece by an Italian teacher. A friend posted it on facebook but mistakenly associating it with a famous Italian poet and writer.

The words immediately resonated with me, so I wanted to learn more about them. This is how I discover that the real author is Rosaria Gasparro. She’s a teacher in primary school, but she’s also a lot more obviously. For sure she’s a beautiful writer.

This small story made me wonder about the infinite potential that lives within each one of us. We just need to crush the walls of our limiting beliefs and allow for our extraordinary self to shine. Then, we would make the world a brighter place.

Below, my humble translation of the words of Rosaria.

THE PRAISE OF the DEFEAT

I think it is necessary to educate the new generations on the value of defeat. On its management. On the humanity that springs from it. On the creation of an identity that can perceive a commonality of destiny, where one can fail and start over without value and dignity being eroded. On how to not become a social climber, on not to walk over the body of others to get there first.

In this world of vulgar and dishonest winners, of false and opportunistic doers, of people who count, who occupy power, who rob the present, let alone the future, to all the neurotics of success, of appearing, of becoming … to this anthropology of the winner, I instead prefer those who lose. It is an exercise that I do well. And it reconciles me with my sacred little.

You can read more from Rosaria here (in Italian).

ONE APPLE A DAY #594 – a clean start

I took a few days off from this little project of mine. Even more, I paused the whole morning routine for a week.
No exercise, no meditation and no writing.
I understood that it was necessary after writing the previous daily apple last Monday. At the end of my fifteen minutes writing process, I was spent. I had to push the words out instead of letting them flow, and that depleted my energy. I’m not sure when it started, but it wasn’t energising anymore.
I needed to rest. So I put the morning writing on hold.
And with it everything else.
In fact, this recovery pause made me realise that this tiredness was affecting everything in my life.
My to-do list was crushing me. I had things in it that I’ve been postponing for weeks, some even for months.
And they were hunting me, pushing me to keep doing stuff even if my energy was gone and I wasn’t really able to take any step further.
So, I did something a bit crazy.
I didn’t just pause the to-do list, I wiped it clean. I deleted all the things to do that I wasn’t doing. I thought that if they were still there after weeks than the key to making that happen surely was not that busy do-do list.
So, I cleaned it.
And you know what. The day after I cleaned my to-do list, I completed one of the tasks that I’ve been dragging for months.
Maybe it’s a coincidence, but I think it’s not.
Sometimes we put so much weight on things that we aren’t unable to move them forward. The moment we give up, we lift that weight and voilá, the magic happens.

One Apple A Day #593 – about discipline

Last week I had a few conversations about discipline and rules.

I believe that the combination of discipline and self-awareness help us create more freedom in our life. I also think that creating a safe space is crucial to help a group of people express their full potential. Discipline, seen as a set of standards or agreements, can provide the structure to protect the safe space needed. But discipline and rules can quickly become a limiting wall, a barrier crushing personal creativity.

In my experience, for discipline to be effective, it must be meaningful.

It must serve the purpose for which everyone is working. It’s not a way to avoid problems or to make the work easier for the facilitators. Discipline must be designed to enhance the experience and help everyone express their full potential. When we don’t feel that the discipline is meaningful, we continuously look for ways to work around it.

So, when we ask for discipline, when we design a standard we should always check with ourselves the nature of our intent.

One Apple A Day #592 – man in the mirror

I feel blessed by the presence of amazing friends in my life.

People who help me grow with every conversation or experience.

Two days ago, I wrote about power and love. In that post, I also shared the need for me to do some news cleansing because I realised that they, the news, where releasing some toxins in my system.

Less than an hour later, my best friend sent me a text. It was a reflection about how much energy we waste to get angry and upset about what happens in the world and how, this anger, influences how we see the world and the people around us. So, staying away from the news is not an escape from reality. At the contrary, it’s a way to protect our energy so we can use it to make our own world better.

“Always remember, your focus determines your reality.” — Dave Gray

Then yesterday I had dinner with one of my brothers. As usual, it was an inspiring conversation in which every word opens up new insights and learnings. I realised that too often we turn our attention to distant things that we can’t change so we don’t have to look in the only place where we can really change something; ourserlves.

“To change the world, you must be willing to change yourself.” — Dave Gray

This is what I was doing lately. I was allowing for the news of the world to distract me from my world and my own growth.

By the way, the day I wrote that first post about power and love, I went to experience archery with another amazing brother (you should definitely try if you have the possibility, it’s pure wonder).

During the drive, I listened twice to a song by Michael Jackson, I had not heard for a while; Man in the Mirror.

I’m starting with the man in the mirror

I’m asking him to change his ways

And no message could have been any clearer

If you want to make the world a better place

Take a look at yourself, and then make a change

One Apple A Day #591 – being a channel

A sat this morning with a BeTheChange card asking me “What wants to emerge?“.

It’s undoubtedly a different question to ponder on because it shifts our perspective on things. It reminds me of one of my favourite passages from Man’s Search For Meaning by Viktor E Frankl.

“We needed to stop asking about the meaning of life, and instead to think of ourselves as those who were being questioned by life—daily and hourly.”

What wants to emerge right here and now, at this exact moment while I’m writing? I was trying to find some thoughtful reflection to share only to realise that again, I was tricking myself making everything about me.

So, I deleted what I wrote, and a memory came in from yesterday.

A conversation I had while I was on a long drive and listening to some music. It started with another question: a piece of art made by an awful person is still a piece of art?

That question quickly shifted to another one; does the author owns her or his creation?

We use to think at the author as the “creator”, someone who creates something out of thin air and so “owns” what she or he creates. But what if the author is just a tool? Someone channelling what wants to emerge into the reality of our shared world?

What would change in your life if you look at yourself as a tool instead of a creator?

One Apple A Day #590 – power and love

A few apparently disconnect things that maybe are not (disconnected).

Sunday I was checking the news online when I had one of those a-ha moments. The more I was reading, the more I was feeling bothered. Even worst, some anger was boiling there.

All those negative news were finding their way into my system. All the hate, the oppression, the suffering, the divisive words they were intoxicating my mind and my heart.

So, I’ve decided to take a full day off the news. And it has been so refreshing that I’m going to take a whole week of detachment from the news.

Yesterday I heard on the radio that it was the anniversary of the dropping of the atomic bomb on Hiroshima. I remember reading the book The Day of the Bomb by Karl Bruckner, more than thirty years ago. It is a children’ novel about that event, and I still feel a knot in the stomach, remembering that story.

I went to bed yesterday asking myself how is it possible that we use all this incredible potential to harm others.

Then this morning, after my training, I walked in the bedroom to pick the BeTheChange cards for my morning reflections. I didn’t put them away in the box yesterday, so they were still there laying on my bedtable. And the one on top caught my attention. It says “Power + Love”.

Inside the booklet a quote.

“Power without love is reckless and abusive, and love without power is sentimental and anaemic. Power at its best is love implementing the demands of justice, and justice at its best is power correcting everything that stands against love.” ― Martin Luther King Jr.

One Apple A Day #589 – my changing loop

“Being in your true essence makes it less of a struggle”.

This BeTheChange card led me into my morning reflections.

Over the years, I’ve experienced many times the struggle of not being aligned with who I am.

When my actions are aligned with my identity, they just flow. But when they are not, everything is a burden.

After many trials and errors, this is my process when I want to achieve something.

First thing, I understand what I want to achieve. I need clarity of the goal to know where to put my attention.

Once I have clarity about what I want, I ask myself who the person who achieves that is. In short, who do I need to become to get what I want?

Then I design a new set of behaviours to install in my life based on my future self. But that’s not enough to sustain the new practices. I’ve learned that I need a set of structures and strategy to support those new behaviours. This is where knowing my present self, with my strengths and weaknesses, is essential. I design structures and strategies around my present self, so they can sustain my journey towards my future self.

One Apple A Day #588 – just listen

Earlier this morning, I was sitting with my eyes closed.
I was trying to slow down my heartbeat after the morning exercises.
There was a lot of noise at the beginning, but not outside. It was inside my head.
Thoughts and images spinning around chasing each other.
And my heart pumping in my ears.

So, I shift my attention outwards.
The familiar sound of my dog barking to someone or something. The engine of a car, slowing pulling away taking someone to work. The birds singing, a choir of different voices that I can’t recognize but I felt some were saying hello to the new day and others were saying goodbye to the finishing night. A kid’s voice asking for something, maybe breakfast. The cat drinking from its bowl.

Then, all of a sudden, the silence.
Complete silence.
As if the world pauses for a moment.
I couldn’t even hear my own breath.
My body felt light as if it was made of air.

I opened my eyes, and the world burst to life with all it sounds, voices, colours, light, and smells.
It felt so alive.
I felt so alive.

I want to do it more often.
Pause and listen.
Not to achieve something, not even peace.
Just to be.

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