One Apple A Day #819 – keep showing up

It’s not coming through.
The daily apple this morning, it’s just not coming through.
Yes, I have a few ideas, words and phrases jotted in my notepad.
But nothing clicks this morning.
I tried.
I tried for more than ten minutes.
I pushed through the emptiness and the resistance in my head, I forced my fingers to type something.
Words, sentences.
But they all felt alien to me.
As if the words were not mine.
So I deleted them all in one single stroke.
The screen blank again.
That’s how it works with the Muse.
She’s fickle and doesn’t always show up.
Yet, I’ll keep showing up.
So she knows that when she will be ready, I’ll be ready too.

One Apple A Day #815 – external disruptor

Yesterday I learned about this idea from Marcia Reynolds, one of the most amazing coaches I know.

The external distruptor.

She says that “we don’t change well on our own.” We are trapped inside an invisible web of thinking patterns, beliefs and stories that limit our ability to see beyond. And because we can’t see this web, we can’t get through it, and we run in circles, stuck where we are.

To see this net and rip off its wires, an external disruption is needed; something or someone outside our head that disrupts our thinking patterns, challenges our stories and prompt us to wonder why we think the way we do.

In his book, Liminal Thinking, Dave Gray wrote that “if you’re part of the system you want to change, you’re part of the problem.

That is true also when the system is me.

To change my system, an external disruptor is needed.

Being an external disruptor for others.

That is who I love to be.

That is what I like to do.

One Apple A Day #809 – dare to suck

A few days ago, I was scrolling through the stories on Instagram or I was watching a video on youtube, I can’t remember. What I remember is that on my screen started a video about Masterclass, this program in which famous people teach you stuff. Usually, I skip these videos, I consider them a kind of fee I have to pay to enjoy wasting my time on the screen of my smartphone. For some inexplicable reason, this time, I decided to listen to Dan Brown, the famous author of The Da Vinci Code.

To promote his class, he talks about a conversation he had with Steven Tyler, the lead singer of Aerosmith and one of the rock legends from my teenager years. 

So, Tyler said that the band has, or used to have, a weekly ritual called Dare to Suck. At these meetings, each one of the members brings an idea that they think is probably so terrible to be embarrassed only for having it. But they present it to the others anyway. According to Tyler, nine out of ten of those ideas are actually awful. But, here’s the magic, the remaining one becomes a good song, sometimes even great.

That sparked a few thoughts in me.

The first one is that you never know where the inspiration hides. This time it was within a commercial that I would typically skip as quickly as possible.

The second one is that rock bands are an incredible source of creative stories and ideas.

Then there is a third one; I love the Dare to Suck ritual, so I need to find a way to bring it in my work.

Finally, there is an opportunity to learn in everything. As an example, this little story made me want to understand why we used the verb “to suck” with this negative meaning. It’s a long story, and you can read it here. But my favourite explanation is this one from“The early Jazz musicians would say that a guy could really “Blow” if he had a good sound when playing the horn. If he couldn’t play very well, then they would say that he was “Sucking” on that horn.”

One Apple A Day #808 – the wisdom in me

Have you ever had the feeling of knowing something without knowing how and when you’ve learned it?
I believe there is more wisdom in everyone that we can imagine.
I always thought that knowledge is the stuff that I acquire and store in my brain through life experiences.
But I’m becoming more and more aware than my body knows a lot more than I thought.
My heart knows a lot more.
My muscles and my guts know a lot more.
Every cell in me has wisdom in it, beyond what my mind can grasp.
My soul is way wiser than me.
I’m just blind and deaf to all this wisdom.
I’m so used to think through everything that I forgot how to tap into this wellspring of knowledge and creativity.
Yet, it is there.
I know it’s there, I don’t know how I know, but I can feel it’s there.
A few times, when the situations pushed me to the boundaries of what my mind could grasp and understand, I sourced from that wisdom.
I just need to keep listening deeply, until I’ll be able to hear its whisper.

One Apple A Day #797 – they will find their way

There are morning in which I’m lost before my laptop because I haven’t any single idea to write upon. And there are mornings in which I have too many ideas, and I’m stuck because I can’t pick one.
I should pick one and leave the others for next days but, who knows who and where I will be tomorrow? I usually forget most of them or, as it often happens, the same idea that excites me today loses all is appeal the day after.
I’ve learned that when facing a choice, having too many options is similar to having no option at all. At least the result is the same, me being stuck.
Sometimes it happens because I want to make the right choice. But what makes a choice the right one? Is it the outcome in the short term? I made so many choices that looked wrong immediately after, but that proved to be incredibly valuable for me years later.
In this context, writing my morning post, I don’t know what’s right or wrong. I wrote some posts in the past I thought were not so good only to receive unexpected appraisals from someone in my small audience. At the same time, incredibly inspired – for me – posts have gone unnoticed.

Then there is the fear of missing out on something. If I let this thought go, will I able to get it back tomorrow?
In the four years that I’ve spent writing almost every morning, I’ve learned that ideas come back when they are ready to be written. Sometimes they take a completely different form, but they always find a way back.
So, this morning I had many things I wanted to reflect upon and share. But obviously, none of them was ready.