One Apple A Day #676 – like a dog

We took Perla, our family dog, out for a walk.
It was a year since the last time we took her out. We have a garden where she can play and run undisturbed, and we don’t have woods or parks at walking distance. But once in a while during the summer, we take the car and bring her to the river.
So, we decided it was time for a small summer trip and some jumps in the water.
So we took the leash, and she immediately understood what was going to happen.
You should have seen her. If joy could have any form or shape, that would be Perla at that moment.
I barely had the time to open the car, and she was already there, waiting to go.
That enthusiasm towards life.
The joy in her eyes.
I want to feel that.
There is something so pure and magical in her look.
How would life look like if I could be a bit more like her sometimes?

“Dogs have boundless enthusiasm but no sense of shame. I should have a dog as a life coach.”


One Apple A Day #761 – Like the aubergine plant

I’m sitting outside this morning. While I write these words, the water keeps flowing from the fountain.

Water doesn’t care about my struggles, my worries, my thoughts. Or anyone else’s. She just does her thing; flowing.

The same for the plants in my garden; they are all being themselves.

And in doing so, they realise their natural potential.

The aubergine plant, for example. 

When we put the plants on the ground, we had high hope. I love aubergines. However, things didn’t work as expected. The plants struggled to grow, and after almost two months, I began to accept the idea that I wouldn’t have any aubergines in my garden.

Then, a few weeks ago, something happened. A small dark and shiny fruit (yep, aubergine, or eggplant, is a fruit) appeared. Yesterday we picked the first two beautiful and perfect two.

The plants just keep doing their things. They didn’t care about what was happening around, about my worries, or my lack of trust. 

They just kept being themselves until they realised their mission.

It is me, with my complicated mind, my free will, my relentless thinking that I have doubts. That I can’t figure out what my mission is.

In a meeting yesterday, someone told me “you just can’t stop being you“. And maybe that is the key.

Being me. Always.

Like the aubergine plant.

No matter what.

Until the fruits come for the world to see and enjoy.

One Apple A Day #750 – the “have to” free zone

There are many “have to” in my typical day.
I’m quite sure it is the same for many.
I have to do this or that.
I have to be there.
I have to finish this.
I have to leave.
I have to write something.
I have to go.
Even now, just writing these few examples, I was holding my breath.
Most of the time, I’m not aware of all of these “have to”, but I just came back from two days free from them where my senses woke up.
Two days in the mountains, with my best friend, doing only what we wanted in the moment.
Sure, we had a plan, sort of.
But it was only useful to set the stage in advance.
Since the moment we left for our weekend out, we only followed our intuition.
It is so powerful.
Time almost disappears.
Now I need more of this in my average day.
Plan in advance to set the stage and then follow my intuition.

One Apple A Day #748 – loud water

Yesterday evening I was in a workshop, and my dear friend Luca guided us through a powerful practice. It was a simple recentering exercise in which he invites to expand all our senses, one by one, so we could notice more.
I was sitting at my desk, and the first sound I heard was the water flowing out from the well in the garden. Anchored on that sound, I gradually expanded my attention, and the world came alive: the birds singing, the TV in a near flat, a neighbour working in its garden, some dogs playing somewhere, the cars passing by in the distance.
The power of attention is just mindblowing.

This morning, with that rich experience still in my heart, I decided to move outside for my morning practices, near the well.
The familiar sound of the water spring welcoming me while I sat for my meditation practice.
But the experience hasn’t been what I expected. The sound of the water was so loud that it covered everything else. I couldn’t hear anything but the water flowing. I even struggled to listen to my own thoughts.
I realised that when we have something in our life so loud – such as a need, a pain, a thought, a desire or even love or joy – we can’t hear anything else. That single thing can fill up our senses and numb ourselves to everything else.
Next time I feel someone is not listening to me, I’ll ask if there is something in their life so loud that they can’t hear anything else.
Maybe I can help.

One Apple A Day #729 – I am a trunk

This morning I woke up and I felt like the trunk of the tree in the picture. I’m not even sure if I can explain this feeling with the words I know.
Beneath me, everything that has been.
My roots go deep, and wide sourcing from places and people I don’t and I’ll never know. Just thinking of how, among the infinite possibilities of the universe, everything combined to bring me here and now, is mindblowing.
Beyond me, everything that can be.
I can’t imagine where my branches and leaves will go, how far they will get. What I sense is that each of them will be part of someone else roots.
And right now, I am the trunk.
That single thing connecting the past and the future.
We all are.
With our roots deep in the same Earth.
And our branches extending out in the same sky.