I am a problem solver.
Or at least, I was.
Not in the sense that I can solve any problem, far from that.
But I used to look at things in life with a problem-solving attitude.
Something not working as expected? Let’s find a solution.
Is there a confrontation? Let’s find a way out.
Do you have a question? Let’s find the answer.
And any time I couldn’t find the solution, the way out or the answer I felt it as a failure.
I don’t know if it’s a natural attitude or if it’s something taught. I’m quite sure I’m not the only one. In my career, I met many people with the same attitude. Some of them are way better than me in solving problems.
Lately, however, maybe because I’m getting slower, I began to slow down. Who knows, it may because I’m not as quick as I was before in solving problems. Or perhaps the challenges are getting too big and complex for my skills.
Whatever the reason, I’m learning to stay with the issues, problems, confrontations or questions that emerge in my life.
In my rush to solve and answer, I wasn’t giving enough space for the challenge to teach me its lessons or to show me a different way.
It isn’t easy. Sometimes it can be scary and even painful to stay.
Yet, there is an opportunity there for something to emerge. A shift of some sort that goes beyond any solution that our knowledgeable mind can conceive.
“When the confrontation is held for what it is, has been given the space it demands without our interference, then something shifts, something opens, and the light returns.”from Be The Change by Vanessa Jane Smith