One Apple A Day #917 – more love

The web is flooded with quotes from business giants. When it comes to success, we look at the great achievers, usually, billionaires who have created remarkable results.

We rarely quote teachers, farmers, or nurses. Yet, those are fundamental roles in our society.

What does this say about the society we are promoting?

And I use “we” because I do the same. Sure, sometimes it is laziness. It is way easier to find a powerful quote or idea from the like of Steve Jobs or Jeff Bezos than from the teacher living next door or the smiling lady improving your morning with a good coffee.

So, today I want to share a piece of advice from my granduncle Domenico, a farmer who spent his life in a small countryside village, who could always find ways to spark a good laugh in others.

It was about ten years ago. I was sitting in my grandma’s kitchen, listen to the two of them telling funny stories about their youth. At some point, my granduncle turned to me and said something that I wasn’t expecting from him.

“There is not enough love in the world. That is the issue. We need more love.”

That’s it.
We need more love.
Everywhere, in everything.
As my friend Mark told me once, love transforms a job into a craft, a work into art.
So, if you want to be successful, here’s a piece of great business advice from a seasoned farmer.

Add more love.

Find ways to add more love to whatever you do: to your task, to your working environment, to your relationship with your clients and colleagues.

Because we need more love.

One Apple A Day #911 – can you see anyone still here from yesterday?

You know when you’re stuck at a stop sign, waiting for your opportunity to squeeze into traffic, but that opportunity never seems to come?

Often, I confess, I begin to shout at all other drivers who are just going there way, unaware of our impatience.

Not my father.

Whenever he heard me complain about the long waits at a stop sign, he would ask me, with one of his smiles, “can you see anyone still here from yesterday?”

I would laugh, and all of a sudden, the tension was gone. Usually, soon after, the opportunity to move arrived, and we will be on our way.

When things get complicated, and I am overwhelmed by the situation, I become irritated with everyone and everything.

I think it’s human, and sometimes it can also be a way to let off steam. But the truth is, it doesn’t really help in getting me out of my stuckness.

So, I imagine my father asking me, “can you see anyone still here from yesterday?”

Then I smile, breathe and move forward.

One Apple A Day #895 – between knowing and doing

Anytime I explore a new subject, I am amazed by the amount of knowledge already available. And I don’t have to spend weeks hiding in a library, consuming my fingertips on books. A few clicks on my browser, and I can have at my disposal way more knowledge I’ll ever be able to process.
With all this knowledge available, how comes we can’t solve all our problems? And how is it possible that we keep repeating the same mistakes?

The other day I was doing some research on a trendy topic; leadership.
The number of books, articles, essays, programs out there is massive. There are so many fantastic theories, models and methodologies available and accessible that one life won’t be enough to explore them all.
Yet, I can’t say we are surrounded only by great leaders.

The same can be said about a lot of topics.

So, what happens?

In Italy, we have a saying: “tra il dire e il fare c’è di mezzo il mare”.

Literally, it says that between saying and doing lies the sea. It means that things are easier said than done.

We should probably change it into “tra sapere e fare c’è di mezzo il mare”.

There’s a long way between knowing and doing.

Our challenge is to close that gap.

One Apple A Day #878 – Wisdom

The word wisdom originates from the Proto-Indo-European root “weyd” meaning “to see”. I love this connection because to me being wise is not about knowing more or having more experiences.

Wisdom is the ability to see more. To see the nuances in everything. To see the invisible connections and recognise the interdependence of things. To acknowledge the complexity and the mystery of life.

To nurture our wisdom, we need to engage in everything that expands our vision and helps us see more and better.

Reading, learning, travelling, meeting people, and making different experiences are all opportunities to do that.

One Apple A Day #831 – Wisdom

This morning I want to start a little new challenge. A few months ago, I bought a set of cards about strengths. They are great in workshops or coaching sessions to identify our strengths so we can use them as levers to create changes in our lives or to solve our challenges.

Unfortunately, due to this pandemic, I haven’t been able to use them properly. Tired of seeing them laying on my desk, I decided to use them differently. For the next days, every morning I’ll pick a card and write about it. There are quite a few cards on the deck, so I think I have enough material for the rest of this crazy year.

Anyway, without farther ado, let’s begin with the first card; wisdom.

The dictionary says that it is the ability to use your knowledge and experience to make good decisions and judgments.

On Wikipedia, they add understanding, common sense and insight to the recipe. And these are three fundamental ingredients because they make quite clear that wisdom is not about knowing a lot.

It’s not the amount of knowledge or experiences that make you wise. It is the ability to sense into what you know and don’t know and source your words, choices and actions from there. 

I think we are wise anytime we remove the duality between sensing and making sense. 

Uh, time flies. I need to use it more wisely next time. 

Let’s close this post with some wisdom from someone wiser than me.

“The saddest aspect of life right now is that science gathers knowledge faster than society gathers wisdom.”

Isaac Asimov